Think of the type of person you want to be. Think of the type of people you admire.
Think of your goals.
Now, think of the people who you spend the most time with.
Are they people that you would want to be like?
Do these people exhibit traits that you admire?
Do they support you and your goals?
Over the last 12 weeks I have been truly blessed with support and encouragement towards my competition and I cannot express of thankful I am. I have really enjoyed my journey leading up to the show so far and would like to believe that I have stayed quite positive throughout the process… However, there were days that I doubted myself, felt unmotivated and scared and just wanted to stop.
BUT, then I would receive an encouraging message, compliment or just some motivation from one of the many kind people who I consider to be in my support system, and I felt a million times better. So many of you have totally brightened my day or my spirits, you may not even know that I consider you to be apart of my support system, but you’re there.
So, thank you.
Whether it is someone reminding you of how far they’ve come, giving them some inspiration or motivation about hard work, or just kind words and compliments, all of these things can have a positive impact on them and their goals. In my opinion it is important to have a strong support system, not only to reap the rewards yourself, but to have the ability to encourage and help others. When you compliment someone or inspire someone to keep going, especially when they may be struggling, you are changing their path and potentially their life.
These are really simply things that we can do, every day to not only be a better person – but be apart of a bigger movement.
They say that you are the sum of the 5 people you are around most. This is why it is so great to have friends, family, co-workers, or just a random support group, to help you reach your goals and impact your life. When you have a goal, or an obstacle you would like to overcome, seek out people who have similar goals (by joining a gym, finding a running group, getting a workout buddy, finding a healthy cooking class, joining a group on Facebook, finding a support group for people who may have the same struggles as you..) this will help you stay motivated and enjoy the process. Furthermore, not only are you more likely to reach your goals by having people support you, but it feels good to support others and see other people succeed as well, knowing that you played a role in that.
This isn’t to say that you should ignore all of the people in your life who don’t have the same interests or goals as you, because all relationships are important, and most of the time everyone in your family and circle of friends will have different plans. However, make sure that they still support you and your goals as it is possible for people to motivate each other towards their goals, no matter how different they are, just through listening (sometimes taking some effort to understand) and then encouraging them and just being happy for their success. On the flip side, if you have certain family members, co-workers or old friends who are negative and discouraging, this may be the time to distance yourself from them. You don’t need to cause a scene and be rude, just ignore any negative comments and you will be surprised at how quickly all of the negativity in your life will disappear.
*Speaking from experience, as a young female who experienced many people trying to bring me down, especially in my teenage years (yay for High School making me stronger), it is possible to live a drama- free life without any negative people… You just have to turn away from the negativity. Yes, this may mean cutting off or distancing yourself from people, but if these people make you feel bad about yourself are they worth having in your life anyways?
The best decision I ever made in my life was to surround myself with positive and encouraging people. My support system includes so many people including my family and friends (who still really don’t quite understand “body building” but I have slowly been teaching them what it’s really about and they now sort of understand things, like “peak week” and what it means to be “4 weeks out”), my co-workers and members of the club I work at and my online following, and although these people don’t really know what I’m talking about half the time they are positive, kind and excited for me, and that has made all the difference in the world.
So the big takeaways from this post include:
1. Find people with similar goals to help keep you motivated and on track, without cutting off the people who are still important to you even though they don’t have similar interests, as long as these people are still supportive of you and your goals.
2. Distance yourself from people who either bring you down a lot or are very negative towards themselves and their own life and goals.
3. Lift other people up! It’s nice to be supported, right? So, make sure you share that feeling with other people by being a cheerleader for your friends and family as well.
4. THANK YOU!
I also want to take this time to thank you all as I am 5 days out from my competition and would not have been able to get this far and enjoy the prep as much as I have without all of your encouragement and support!